I just wanted to find the right man, someone who was perfect for me.Between the time I started online dating and now, I’ve discovered exactly how dating websites work.We put pressure on ourselves and on our dates to have a vision for our future together as soon as possible.Overthinking the long-term possibilities can cool things off before they even have a chance to get started.Personally, I’ve never really liked first dates, especially if it was a blind date.I feel a lot of pressure, and sometimes it’s just plain awkward. If you had to give me a nickname right now on the spot, what would it be? Do you think it’s possible that we met in a previous life? How would you describe me to someone who doesn’t know me?
You only get 3 words to describe yourself – what are they? Which is better to listen to – your heart or your brain? Some of you may be thinking that this question means the guy is trying to plan a future date for us. There is no faster way to make me feel like I’m failing at life than to ask me why I’m single.I really wish you were right, but that’s what makes this question extra annoying: The same guys who ask me what I to do for fun will turn around in two weeks, and ask me what I would like to do for our first date, even though I’ve given them a list of things I do for fun. I mean, what is the right answer to a question like this?I was having brunch with some girlfriends the other day, and we got on the subject of first dates. It's a generic question that breeds generic answers, and doesn’t really give you additional insight into who I am.While we all had different experiences, there was one thing we all agreed on: There are a few questions we are absolutely of hearing from guys on a first date. Asking me what I “do for fun” kind of makes me feel like I’m on an interview, not a date.